Once upon a time, you had attempts to arrange your personal life. You met, perhaps, and lived with someone, but then you had to part with them. These failed attempts have led you to disappointment in life. Fear settled in you. You no longer believe in men, you don’t believe in your luck, you don’t believe in your beauty and irresistibility. You are afraid of a new long-term relationship with a man, afraid of the pain of parting and closing yourself off from the world, hiding behind your forced smiles.
• On the one hand, you really want to improve your personal life, you want to be loved and love, because you know that love is the meaning of human life. On the other hand, the fear of new pain adds fuel to the fire of inner experiences. So you try to avoid it. Trying to avoid by all means. But what we fear comes to us. We ourselves attract it into our lives. You have reduced your personal life to almost complete zero, and all that you could leave for yourself and allow yourself from the joys of life is casual sex that does not oblige either you or your partner to anything.
• But it's a vicious circle. Casual sex leads to loneliness, and you see the cure for loneliness in casual sex. You have not yet had time to feel that casual sex only increases the suffering from loneliness, mentally devastates and drinks energy from your heart, thirsty for sincere and pure love. It devastates not so much physically as spiritually. Casual sex is a sign of insufficient development of human consciousness and sensuality. Casual sex is a momentary weakness, it is a concession to your desire, it is a kind of compromise. And compromise is the only thing that destroys our dreams. Your life, your state of mind, your actions depend only on yourself. If you consider yourself unhappy and do not try to do at least something for your happiness, do not try to break out of the vicious circle, then you will feel sorry for yourself. You will spend your life cheating on your dream until you want to change everything.
• What did you dream about as a young girl? You dreamed of a prince, of a beautiful and bright love. And what did you come to? Frightened and having gone through several unsuccessful attempts to live together with men, you reduced your dream to just casual sex. It means that your time has not yet come, it means that they were not your men, not the heroes of your novel and your dreams. Have you ever thought that the man who was with you not so long ago in bed is your long-awaited prince? Only he will not return to you, because he was also in search of his princess. He is just like you, lonely, and he also waits and believes. And the princess, according to his ideas, does not stoop to casual sex. He knows that she is waiting for him, he believes that sooner or later he will find her in this vain world. And he is looking. He is looking for you, his princess. So be worthy of your prince. If you are very lonely, then it is better to dream about him, talk to him mentally or open the window and call him, shouting loudly into the wind. And wait again.
• But the word "wait" does not mean to sit at the window and listen to the sounds outside the door. This means as often as possible to communicate, get closer, part, meet, swim, move, develop and change with those around you. And to focus in your communication only on your heart, which recognizes "its close and dear" in the many-sided crowd. Here are some tips for you to find your love and not stoop to casual sex:
• To avoid disappointment, don't be charmed. Take a sober look at things. Don't set expectations, don't make demands. The more conditions you create for yourself for the possibility of fulfilling your dream, the more difficult it is for it to come true. Look for a soul mate.
• Be in a state of "here and now." All the most important things in your life are happening now. You should not put off your life "for later", especially you should not put off love. If it happens in your life, don't give it a long list of matches and requirements.
• Don't drag your past failures into the present and future. It is not necessary to blow on the water if you have burned yourself in milk.
• Do not look around, do not obey rumors, do not try to look better in front of someone than you are. Be yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself. After all, we are loved only if we ourselves love, appreciate and respect.
• That, perhaps, is all. Take these tips and get started. And you will finally stop humiliating yourself with random meetings for one night and meet your love, the same prince who has been looking for you for so long.
• And when you meet him, then love and give the heat of your unspent care and love.
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